It is not always necessary to prove things to the end. Sometimes it's worth stopping. But "I still don't have a result because I made a well-considered decision" is different from "I still don't have a result because I got scared in the process and didn't do it." But who will feel this difference, and frankly admit it?
In the second case, it somehow turns out that you return to an unfulfilled task from time to time. If you think too much about a person or a situation in the past. If there is still something to say and do in that situation. If you didn't go on a trip with a girl or didn't go to a dance, and now you keep thinking, how would you manage that Latin "pa". If there is a desire to release energy and see something beyond this unfinished step.
You can do nothing about it, because why the therapeutic effect for a lot of effort?
Instead get:
- incompleteness, useless expectations, feelings of regret, which absorb a lot of attention and energy. As a result - the absence of any desires with the concomitant absence of Zen.
- thoughts about the situation are repeated - the unconscious scenario of behavior in other areas is repeated. But don't worry about it, you can assume for the rest of your life that any coincidences are random.
- internal conflict is the worst thing that can happen to a leader. When a leader declares one thing, and in a decisive situation does another, because he is stuck on some repetitive scenario. As a result, it looks inconsistent and uncertain, loses its integrity. And later, authority, which will inevitably create a good basis for manipulators.
- the fear of closing certain unresolved situations is disguised as a long-distance distrust of oneself and the environment. "It's not me who's afraid to go on, it's they who are unable to help me." Bad manager, bad employee, bad partner. You have every chance to change partners like gloves, or to search for the ideal candidate for years, complaining about the imperfection of the world, the country, or specific individuals.
So it's worth, really worth closing that half-open door. 80% of your wishes come true for 20% of your efforts in just a few weeks. And some with just one call. And another 80% of associated doubts and fears will disappear due to unnecessaryness. This is exactly the amount of energy you need to achieve a big goal.
